Talking to a friend or family member can really help us calm down and get perspective when we’re feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes we’re reluctant to pick up the phone because we don’t want to bother other people with our problems, or we feel like it isn’t the right moment to “get into it.” Here are a few things to consider when we’re feeling anxious, angry, or depressed.

• Sometimes you just need to hear a familiar voice. Sure, it might seem easier in the moment to send a text or email, but actually talking to someone you trust and hearing their voice can be comforting and calming. It’s also an important thing to remember when we’re worried about a friend. Take a minute to make that call instead of just sending a text or DM.
• You don’t have to talk about “the thing.” In a moment of panic, we might shut down the idea of calling friends because they’re busy or we don’t have time to go into all the details. It can still be so calming just to call and say hi, and then make plans to get together later to talk about what’s going on.
• Listening helps too. When things feel out of control, it’s easy to just hunker down and shut out the world. If a friend reaches out, take a minute to respond or answer the call. Just listening to a friend or family member talk about their week and what’s going in their lives can help us feel more connected, more relaxed and more supported.
• Spending time with friends can help us be more productive. When there don’t seem to be enough hours in the day because of school or work obligations, the first things that often get cut from our schedule are social activities and time with friends. Taking an hour or two to catch up with a friend can help us recharge and focus so we’re more productive when we get back to work.